This past weekend I read “The Knitting Sutra, Craft as a Spiritual Practice” by noted Feminist and co founder of Rolling Stone, Susan Gordon Lydon. The quote that keeps rolling around in my brain is this: “Women experience so many pressures to give up who the truly are in order to take care of everyone around them. And yet I have seen women flower creatively only when they learn how to ruthlessly protect their time.”
This has, sadly, proven to be true for me over and over. My book “It’s Your Turn Now” was written in secret, during bits of time that I had to fight for tooth and nail. My boyfriend at the time did not think I needed time to myself–time away from him and his son–and this ultimately resulted in the demise of our relationship.
As much as I mourn the good bits of the past two and a half years with him and getting to be a momma, I enjoy my freedom and solitude more.
Sad that so many of us are forced to choose, isn’t it?